TIPS TO MEN FROM WOMEN ON THE FIRST APPROACH
O.K., you’ve spotted her across the crowded room.  In your mind, you’re confident that she’s the “one”.  You slowly make your way to her.  Your heart is pounding.  Your palms are sweating.  You reach her…. and then…

You open your mouth.  You blow it! No second chances, bub.

So what do you say?  How do you act? The following 10 tips are recommended by women on how the man should first approach her.  You’d be wise to read these.  Everyone knows… the woman is always right!

Tip #1:   Don’t request a date immediately.  Wait until a conversation first occurs before asking her out.

For God’s sake, at least find out her name first!  If she doesn’t know who in the world you are… no matter how nice, charming or goodlooking you may be, chances are VERY slim that she’s going to want to go out with a complete stranger. 

Tip #2:  Don’t pounce upon her the minute that she walks into the place.

A woman wants to become accustomed to her new surroundings, have a drink, talk to friends or relax before being rushed by a man who descends on her like a vulture to prey.  Let her start enjoying herself before making your first move.

Tip #3:  Don’t overdo it with flattery or flowery compliments.

“Your eyes light up the room like moonlight on still waters...

Pleeeeease!  Even if you’re sincere when throwing her a line like that. she’s going to have a tough time swallowing it.  Compliments are all well and good, but don’t overdo it.  When you DO say something nice, go for a nice casual comment like “You have a great smile” as opposed to “Nice rack ya got there!”.

Tip #4:  If buying her a drink, don’t expect a miracle.

She may say “thank you”, but even that’s no guarantee.  Better to send her a drink anonymously.  This conjures up an element of mystery or intrigue that can inspire her to “investigate” the sender and personally thank you.  This can lead to a conversation which can lead to… whatever.

Tip #5:  When approaching a group of women, don’t hit on one after another.

Use your head.  Every woman wants to feel special.  If she sees you going from woman to woman like Musical Chairs, that “special” factor is tossed right out the window.

Tip #6:  Don’t be desperate, overanxious or pushy.  Respect her space and don’t get grabby or physical.

So many men ignore this rule.  There’s a big difference between being pleasantly persistant and being an absolute nuisance. Keep your encounter with her conversational and friendly.  Don’t ruin it by putting your arm around her.  You may think you’re suave and debonair.  Chances are, she thinks you’re an asshole.

Tip #7:  Ask for her phone number ONLY if you plan on using it.

If you’re lucky enough to actually get her phone number on a napkin, your job is only half complete.  Dial her up. She wouldn’t give you her number if she didn’t want you to call her.

Tip #8:  Ask her out at least two or three days in advance.

Don’t try to rush the date.  This wreaks of desperation.  Play it cool, boy. Good things come to those who wait.

Tip #9:  Don’t ask her to go away with you on a vacation, to a wedding or an office function.

You’ve just met her!  She barely knows you, so a trip to Tahiti or your cousin’s barmitzvah are not prime choices for a first date.

Tip #10:  Spend the money on breath mints.

Otherwise, you’ll never get past “hello”.